I have been struggling to make sense of some things for the past 5 years.
And I must admit that I have since stopped trying to figure it out because there’s simply no logic nor a valid reason as to why the society has this mind set. I sometimes just go crazy when thinking about this, it just doesn’t make sense. Here is the thing, you know how some things are ok when men do them but when a woman does the same, it’s something else.
I recently got an email from a pretty young lady who is of course a reader of this column pouring her heart out to me. Now this is why I just love what I do, I get to talk with a lot of people, they confide in me and I do the same, some have yet made it into my friends list because we just have a strong bond. Anyhow, this lady was obviously in pain, yes you guessed it, it was all because of a guy. The guy had in the past cheated on her not only once, twice nor thrice, he had done it several times! Yan eh, metlholopelo ruri, and yet this girl was still with him.
During one of the many heart breaks that this girl went through, she made the biggest mistake of her life (according to her). She talked to some guy friend of hers and well, considering the fact that she needed comfort and all at the time, she ended up, kissing the guy. So this girl decided to tell her boyfriend the truth because she “just couldn’t live with the guilt of lying to her man”. Mind you, all the four times that the guy cheated on the girl, he was always caught. Never at one point did he feel guilty, or at least be honest about it. So after this girl told the guy the truth, the guy went ballistic and thought the girl did an unforgivable thing.
So this guy broke up with the girl and the girl sent me an email asking me what to do to get the guy back. And well me being me I told her the truth, that she deserves better and that she shouldn’t settle for less.
Now this brings me to the fact that I’ve never understood why it’s ok for a guy to cheat and do all the wrong things but when a girl does the same, not intentionally, she is nothing but a bad person.
I have since realized that this is actually the in thing for guys.
A friend of mine is having problems with her boyfriend because she is not allowed to talk to the guy’s friends but the guy actually sends messages to the girl’s friends. In fact this girl has been accused of liking one of the boyfriends’ friends just because she greets the friend with a smile. Pathetic I tell ya! And what about the fact that when a guy has multiple girls he’s the man and he got game but when the girl does the same she’s well… names that I cannot mention.
Can someone enlighten me why this is the case, why is it acceptable for a guy to do such things? Help a girl understand please. Do remember to tune into Yarona fm this Sunday at 4p.m and let’s get chatting about anything and everything.