I longed for the day my husband would be freed from the chains of alcohol. I wanted his heart to be free so that he can love again. I wished for his mind to be free so that he can dream again. I realised that he needed an intervention. That is why I turned to BOSASNet for help.
Even though we were received well it was not an easy step for my husband. The first weeks he felt anxious and undecided about his decision to quit alcohol. One of the things that made the recovery journey difficult for him was the withdrawal symptoms he experienced in the first weeks.
He would sweat a lot, experience shakes, vomiting and hallucinations. He started by reducing his daily amount of alcohol intake to wean himself off, as recommended by his counsellor. It was painful to see my husband crying because of the desire to drink more alcohol.
He was referred by his counsellor to consult a medical practitioner to assist him with managing withdrawal symptoms. This really helped. On several occasions he would experience a lapse and drink more than he had planned. Overtime his body started getting accustomed to the reduced amount of alcohol. He further decided to reduce to drinking few beers during weekends. Now I had hope that my husband was really recovering from alcohol.
It has now been a month into his recovery and my husband’s face now glowing with a radiance that I have not seen for a long time. His appetite for food has returned. I do my best to prepare healthy meals for him to help his body to regain nutrients. My husband joined the gym to keep him busy and fit. He also spends most of his time at home with me and the children. Our relationship has improved in so many ways.
We communicate more, he has become my friend again. He is now more affectionate to me more than before. We have a deeply intimate relationship that feels me with so much joy. I no longer struggle to have his attention. What makes me to adore him even more is the way he gives our children love and care. He makes time to play with them and helps them with their school work.
He is still in the process of applying for a job in different organisations and it’s promising. He has weekly meetings with a professional financial advisor who is assisting us on how to manage the debts that we incurred due to his old drinking habits.
I am also receiving counselling at BOSASNet. I am learning how to live with my recovering husband. I am learning how to take care of myself. My emotions are no longer in turmoil like before. I have found inner peace and joy. My husband and I still have a long way to go. We are both taking it one step at a time because recovery is a journey. At least now I am not afraid to ask “Who is Your Lover?”
If you think that you might have a substance abuse problem, or if you have a friend or family member who does, we encourage you to seek help. For some, it can mean the difference between life and death. You can find BOSASNet on Facebook, visit us on www.bosasnet.com or call us on 3959119 or 72659891 for more information.