Ok boys and gents, just like I promised your’s truly had a good chat with her lovely cousin Miss Ludo Mannathoko and she gave us pointers to make you a winner when you approach a girl:
Scenerio 1: She’s with her girls
This is where you can either really nail it or really kill it, but here’s the trick: Walk casually over to them and start chatting with her friends, paying particular attention to your *catch*.
FACT: charm her friends and you’ve charmed her too! Just as she’s feeling a little left out, turn to her and show her you’ve been saving the best chat for last- with her.
2. Flash her your sexiest smile and ask her friends if you can steal her for a minute.
3. Now I promise you, here you’re definitely in so just pull her away and work your magic
GOLDEN RULE: To get a girls attention, never approach her on your first encounter. Let sparks fly from a distance- for at least a few days, however, if you fear never seeing her again, here’s how to steal her heart:
What ever you do, even if it kills you, make her smile or even better make her laugh. Compliment her on… the least expected feature.. say.. her eyebrows. She’ll think it’s original.
Now that you got a chuckle out of her you may introduce your self. Please use your real name- the one your mama gave you, we really appreciate it, a lot. e.g if your name is Dickson, don’t call yourself Dicks, stick to Dickson!
Ask if you can join her in what ever she’s doing – sit with her, walk with here e.t.c. Don’ t forget to flash that smile, it works, it totally melts us. That’s all we talk about when we hook up with our girls – your super smile.
DON’T start talking about yourself the whole time, show interest in her, and her world the whole time. Focus more on her as it gets her talking, you don’t want a one way conversation. At this point, she’s starting to play with her hair, fidgeting with her finger, drawing invisible circles with her feet. Fellas, at this point, you’re 80% in.
Don’t hang around for too Long, 10 minutes will do, let her know it was nice chatting. DO NOT ASK FOR HER NUMBER! And as you prepare to depart look her straight in the eye, put on a straight face and tell her she is cute or beautiful – not hot, not sexy (she’s heard that too many times) and that you hope to see her some time.
Don’t forget to tell her to keep those eyebrows the way they are!
*NB: Here’s the thing about chatting for 10 minutes, it’s so not enough!! And she’ll wish you could stay longer and make her laugh again. She won’t of course tell you that on your first encounter but trust me, next time you bump into her, she will walk over to you… then you can take it from there.