Last week I wrote about an email that I received from an 18 year old young lady who was in need of serious advice concerning her pregnancy.
She asked me whether or not to abort her unborn child because she felt like she was not ready to be a mother and again the current economic status that she and her family are in does not allow her to bring another being into their family. Not forgetting that she and her boyfriend are scholars and being parents would obviously disturb their studies and hence their future.
Now this girl and her boyfriend had already decided that they were going to abort the unborn child but they wanted my advice. Tough position that I was put in I tell you, didn’t know how to reply to these two so I asked for people’s advice in the youth affair show on yarona FM and of course right here.
While reading people’s comments I then asked myself whether or not abortion should be legalized in Botswana like our neighbors South Africa. Maybe then we would have fewer cases of mothers dying with the unborn child due to backyard abortion. I mean if abortion is legalized then people would do safe abortions at safe places like the women’s clinic.
I understand that in general the society views abortion as murder but really guys, we sometimes need to be objective and consider people’s situations. I know that in this particular girls’ situation most people are probably saying, “ene o ne a dirang eng?” (What was she doing?), but really guys, this doesn’t help, we need to move forward and playing the blame game doesn’t help either.
I’m not at all condoning the behavior of young people having unprotected sex, falling pregnant and then aborting. We as young people need to take full responsibility of our actions and face our problems head on. Our biggest problem is that we like hurrying into things that we are not ready for and hence find ourselves in situation that we can’t handle.
Anyhow, these are some of the comments that I received on whether or not the girl should do an abortion and if at all abortion should be legalized:
Tanke Oagile 21 years.
Do you think abortion should be legalized in Botswana?
No. I don’t think it should be legalized because it’s an act of destroying God’s creation and I don’t think the Lord would appreciate that. People should remember that a child is a gift from God.
What if you can’t provide for the child?
Find ways to make a living, Batswana depend on other people to earn income. People should learn to work for themselves, be your own boss. There’s agriculture, one could plough a few vegetables on their backyard and sell them to their neighbors, there’s also selling airtime and sweets on the streets. You start at a small scale and hopefully one day you’ll operate at a larger scale
Comments on the Youth Affair blog:
Doing an abortion depends on the situation of the parent to be. I am talking from experience as I had my son at very young age and even though the father was working he still didn’t provide. I remember as if it happened yesterday that my son went the whole day without milk. I will never forget how helpless and heartbreaking it was not being able to provide for my son. Had I known about abortion I would have done it. She must do what is right and forget about what the society will say because the same society will criticize her even more when the child is dirty , cold and hungry.
I believe in the saying that you can’t take a life if you can’t give one. Really what can go so wrong in their lives if they keep the baby? Even if she is at school, the worst that can happen is to take a break from school for a year and half. Surely she can do that, she is still young. So really the bottom line is they must critically look at their situation and decide if it is worth it.