Hi, I’m a 19- year -old girl. I completed my form five in 2013 and had a gap year in 2014.
I then tried applying everywhere but I haven’t been accepted anywhere.
I also wanted to do volunteer work but I don’t know how to go about it.
I’m rewriting some subjects but I’m so stressed out that I don’t know if I’ll make it.
I’m suicidal and antisocial; I need to know what or who I can see to give me hope.
I want to at least try making things work for me before giving up but I’m losing hope fast.
Please help; how do I keep hoping when things aren’t looking up?
You’re rewriting exams but you are stressed because you don’t know if you’ll make it?
You should be concentrating on doing your very best to pass those exams, giving it your all, instead of stressing over something you cannot predict.
Focus on achieving your goal, which is to pass your exams with flying colours, and believe that you can do it.
When you’ve given the very best of yourself, whichever way things turn out, you’ll take comfort in the fact that you did all that was within your power.
Yes, doing volunteer work would be a good way to relieve your stress; so is playing your favourite sport or pursuing other hobbies.
There are many places where you can volunteer your time for community service, such as your local youth club, the church or the school.
Also, you can find out what support groups or organizations operate within your area, decide where you want to lend a hand and then approach the relevant authorities; they never say no to extra help.
Volunteering your time to do good in your community is therapeutic and will definitely help to relieve your stress and curb your antisocial behaviour as it means going out into the community and meeting people from different backgrounds, helping those who need it, and realizing that you’re not alone…that there are many other people out there with problems…some much bigger than yours.
Never lose hope or think of giving up on something that has the potential to better your life, for you may give up when success is just around the corner; you never know when your turn will come, so, hang in there.
You’re only 19 and still have your whole life ahead of you; Botswana needs you and we cannot afford for you to be filled with hopelessness or to be having suicidal thoughts.
You will find the names and contact numbers of counselling centres somewhere on this page; I encourage you to seek counselling so that you can talk to someone who, in your own words, will give you hope.
Those who have made it in life are not luckier or smarter than you; they made it because they never gave up…and those who nearly gave up managed to stay on course because they kept their eyes on the prize, so that when they fell, they were able to pick themselves up through sheer determination and soldier on until they achieved their goals. You too, can.
To help you along your journey to success, here are some self-motivation tips by international speaker/writer Mike Moore:
10 Terrific Self-Motivating Tips
No one can motivate anyone to do anything. All a person can do for another is provide them with incentives to motivate themselves. Here are ten very effective strategies to help you get up and get moving toward actualizing your enormous, untapped potential.
01. Be willing to leave your comfort zone. The greatest barrier to achieving your potential is your comfort zone. Great things happen when you make friends with your discomfort zone.
02. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes. Wisdom helps us avoid making mistakes and comes from making a million of them.
03. Don’t indulge in self-limiting thinking. Think empowering, expansive thoughts.
04. Choose to be happy. Happy people are easily motivated. Happiness is your birthright; so don’t settle for anything else.
05. Spend at least one hour a day in self-development. Read good books or listen to inspiring tapes.
06. Train yourself to finish what you start. So many of us become scattered as we try to accomplish a task; finish one task before you begin another.
07. Live fully in the present moment. When you live in the past or the future you aren’t able to make things happen in the present.
08. Commit yourself to joy. C.S. Lewis once said, “Joy is the serious business of heaven.”
09. Never quit when you experience a setback or frustration. Success could be just around the corner.
10. Dare to dream big dreams. If there is anything to the law of expectation then we are moving in the direction of our dreams, goals and expectations.
The real tragedy in life is not in how much we suffer, but rather in how much we miss, so don’t miss a thing.
Charles Dubois once said, “We must be prepared, at any moment, to sacrifice who we are for who we are capable of becoming.”
Mike Moore is an international speaker/writer on the role of appreciation, praise and humor in performance motivation and human potential. You can check out hisbooks, tapes and manuals at www.motivationalplus.com.