THAT WAS ME: Garebatho showing the book illustration


Heartbroken lover publishes a book

When he caught his fiancée having sex with his best friend, Kebaneilwe Garebatho decided to take matters into his own hands.

So he took a paper and a pen and wrote a book.

While most men would have beaten the daylights out of the cheating couple or even worse, killed them, Garebatho summoned his strength and decided to live with the situation.

But that was not before he started abusing alcohol and getting hospitalised for months for excessive alcohol consumption.

Before he became a writer, 42-year old Garebatho was a businessman and Managing Director of G&M Cards, dealing in stationery distribution as well as design and supply of bereavement and social events cards.

He wears a wide smile as he talks about the good old days when he used to make a lot of money and staying in hotels during his trips to South Africa.

But the smile suddenly disappears as he squints his eyes in vivid recollections of the day he found his soul mate on his bed having sex with his best friend.

“Before that day we were the envy of the town. But all that changed when I had returned from a meeting in Johannesburg to fetch some documents that I had forgotten in Gaborone.

I had bought a bunch of roses for my lady and since I had wanted to surprise her, I did not tell her I was coming back to Gaborone that day.

I travelled all the way back and by 8pm I arrived at the house. All the lights were off except for the bedroom where the window was also open.

I tip-toed to the window hiding the roses on my back. When I moved the curtain I got the shock of my life when I found her having sex with my best friend,” he says.

The cheating couple, Garebatho says, grabbed their clothes and sneaked out and disappeared under the cover of darkness while he was still startled at what he had just seen.

A neighbour asked what was wrong but out of shame Garebatho whose relationship was an envy of everyone in his Phase 2 neighbourhood lied that there was nothing wrong.

“I was too embarrassed to tell him the truth and I asked him to accompany me to the nearest bar.

I bought fifteen bottles of whisky and told the neighbour that I was just going to keep the alcohol for my visitors but when he left I started drinking it.

On the fourth day I passed out and when I woke up the following day I was in drips and lying on a hospital bed,” he says as he narrates the chronicle of events that led to his fall from grace.

Garebatho was diagnosed with stomach ulcers and he was hospitalised for fifteen days.

After that he was too weak to do anything and his business suffered until he closed shop. “None of my friends or relatives believed my story afterwards as they knew my fiancé to be a saint.

While I was in hospital she went to my house and took all her belongings and I never saw her again.”

After his recovery Garebatho decided to use his experiences to help other people, hence the decision to write a book.

The cover page of his book entitled ‘The Pain of Love’ is a sad reminder of the day that turned his life around and although the expectation would be to read about a harrowing love story, Garebatho’s book is actually a guide on how to cope with such situations.

“I saw and read about the so called passion killings and I decided to help,” he says as he taps on a copy of his book.

When compiling the book, Garebatho says he did some further research by interviewing perpetrators who murdered their victims and attempted suicide.

“I visited some of the perpetrators in prison, mental hospital and I also attended some courtrooms where some of them were being tried.

I also interviewed social workers and academics at the University of Botswana,” he says.

Garebatho’s book is available online at and he may be contacted at 72135607.

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