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My Boyfriend is Secretive


I am in a relationship and have been dating this guy for about five years. We used to fight and afterwards we’d sort everything out and get back to normal.

The problem is that he is not open at all but I am carrying his child and now I’m wondering and even regretting what I got myself into. I love him but his phone is always off or in silent whenever am with him.

Five years is a long enough time for a couple to get to know each other quite well.

However, in your case you’re still unsure about this guy and you’re now beginning to wonder and regret what you’ve gotten yourself into. So he’s not open at all; what about you?

You have to remember that he’s the only person who has all the answers to your questions about the things he does or does not do, therefore you need to have a serious heart-to-heart with him about all this…especially that you have a little one on the way.

Just ask him outright about his phone and don’t allow him to sweet-talk you into believing what you know very well to be untrue.

Since it bothers you so much that whenever he’s with you his phone is either on silent mode or off, ask him why, because you’ll never know unless you confront him about the issue.

It sounds to me like you don’t trust him; therefore you too need to be open and honest with him about how you feel.

Let him know that his behaviour makes you uncomfortable and why. If he loves you back, he’ll make an effort to change for the better.

If his phone continues to be on silent mode or off, even after you talk to him about it, then he most likely has got something to hide, and that’s a problem.

New Perspectives offer counseling as well as relationship management services; if you two can’t solve this on your own, I suggest you seek professional help; hopefully, by the time your baby arrives, you’ll have a more trusting, loving and fulfilling relationship