Three weeks back I watched a very interesting reality show called “Sister Wives” in one of the BBC Channels.
It was about the life of a man who is married to four wives and has several children. This big family is constantly living in fear as they are perceived as an odd family and again what the man is doing is seen unethical and to some extent illegal.
Whenever a police car passes by their house they always have to have their guard up and be ready for the possibility of their father being escorted to the police car. Not a desirable lifestyle I must admit, I mean who would want to live their life in constant fear and feel like they are walking on egg shells wherever they go.
Now because of the terror that this family is living in, I then thought of something that I find really disturbing, well, in my view that is. You know how Polygamy is frowned upon by many and is even illegal in our country.
But have you ever thought of the sarcasm of this legal law and how it goes against our moral beliefs and expectation. Don’t get me wrong here, I am not at all suggesting that polygamy be legalized, I mean I know I would have an absolutely hard time if my father or brother was to have multiple wives.
What I find confusing is that our law prohibits a man or woman from marrying more than one partner and bearing children with all these partners while there’s no punishment for men who have multiple partners and have bundle of children all over the country. Why is this huh? Don’t you find this contradictory to what we believe in? I know I do.
Look at it in this way, the man in the reality show Sister Wives lives with all his wives and children under one roof and cares for them, loves them and provides for all of them. But yet people find this so ungodly and so wrong but yet there are a whole lot of men who have children with four different women and most of them don’t even take care of these scattered children. Even so, there’s no law that imprisons these kinds of people, only until the mother sues the father for maintenance and that’s it.
There are no regular police checks on men who have kids with different women and extra marital sexual relationships, so they can live in constant fear! What is our government and law trying to portray? What are we the youth supposed to learn from this?
That it’s right to have a whole lot of kids with different women and not marry them or love them, but it is so wrong to marry all these women and provide for your children and be a happy family? By the way, I’m not at all implying that it’s only men who behave in such a manner, I’m not at all discriminating.
I’m just emphasizing on men because the reality show focuses on a family of one man, four wives and his children. So I ask you, the reader of this column, do you find any sense in what I’m saying and share the same views or you think things are fine the way they are? Let’s interact.