Husband sued by mistress’ spouse while wife counter-sues his married lover
A CHEATING husband who allegedly made another man’s wife pregnant left the Xhosa 1 customary court in Mahalapye village in disbelief and shock.
Lebogang Oneilwe, 30, of Mahalapye plainly admitted to the offence and said he wanted to marry the woman.
He made the statement before being fi ned P40 000 for adultery and marriage wrecking. Meanwhile his mistress, Cecilia Gabantebale, 31, of Kgagodi village was fined P50 000 for the same offence in a counter-suit by Oneilwe’s wife. The same court heard on different dates – Monday and Tuesday – two related, yet separate cases.
The shocked chief, Kgosi Sam Ndzulumbe, who presided over the matters which were heard last Monday and Tuesday commented: “You are so bent on wrecking another man’s marriage so much that you want to marry her?
“Are you also forgetting that you have a wife whom you are cheating on?” he asked.
But Lebogang, who was being sued by Cecilia’s husband, Metha Gabantebale of Mahalapye explained that it was because Cecilia was pregnant with his child.
“She told me to impregnate her because her husband did not want to make anymore children with her,” Lebogang pointed out.
Further, Lebogang did not deny putting another ring on Cecilia’s ring finger and cohabiting with her for three weeks after chasing his own wife from home. He said it was because Cecilia had long gotten rid of her wedding ring.
In an interesting twist, Lebogang’s mother, Ellen Oneilwe, 53, said her son was not driven by anything to have an extramarital relationship, but sex.
“He is pushing his wife out of their matrimonial home because he says she is not giving him enough sex. When my son told me he wanted to get married two years ago I did not approve because I knew he was not ready, but he insisted with the support of his uncles.
“I told them then, if a child wants a sweet give it to him, he would suck it. Now that he has fi nished sucking his, he is crying over another man’s sweet. What I can tell this court is that, very soon my son will grow tired of this other sweet and will look for another sweet to suck,” said the saddened mother. Initially Metha sued for P170 000 over emotional stress and the marriage failure caused by Lebogang to his family. He told the court that his wife had abandoned two children aged 12 and nine to run after a man who had chased out a wife and his son from their matrimonial home.
“At some point I thought of taking the law into my own hands when I saw them making out in public several times,” Metha explained his rage before court.
He pointed out that he could have murdered the two if he had failed to control his emotions then.
On Tuesday, Lebogang’s wife, Akanyang Oneilwe, 30, from Shoshong village sued Cecilia for P200,000 for wrecking her marriage. But the court decided that the charges were too high and she agreed to drop them to a lower fine.
Asked why she was wrecking another woman’s marriage, Cecilia said she was never told of any laws or schooled on marriage behavior prior to or during her marriage ceremony.
“Ga ke a laiwa. Fa e le gore go dirilwe jalo ga ke a utlwa sepe,” meaning “I was never guided on marital issues. If I was given any guidance I did not hear,” Cecilia said and prompted one of the elders to ask, “do you mean you were so overjoyed that you did not even hear the elders talking to you? Were you only thinking of how you were plotting to waste this man’s time in marriage?”
Cecilia refused to tell court whether she would go back to her husband. Tears freely fl ooded Akanyang’s face when Cecilia failed to reveal her pregnancy before court.
“I maybe pregnant but I am not certain,” Cecilia explained