Writing a column on parenting can be a little tricky.
You tell stories about children and being a mother yourself, you can’t run away from telling stories about your own children sometimes. And that is where the problem arises as writing about your children can be interpreted as bragging and bragging can be shallow and annoying, I agree.
Recently, to make a point about kids’ selective memories, I used an example of my son who had memorised a whole 32 -page book but conveniently fails to remember that I said not to ride a bicycle in the house, or not to fight with his younger brother.
In response, an avid reader of the column who was not amused probably because he suspected I just wanted to brag about my son’s abilities and was simply not letting the truth get in the way of a good story when I claimed my boy had memorised the book, phoned to let me know that by the time he is in primary school, my son will be an expert at Shakespeare. He was being sarcastic of course. But his response set me thinking about the fine line between making conversation or making a point and bragging about your kids.
I was being totally truthful when I said the boy had memorised a book, but I realised I didn’t explain what kind of a book it was. But then again I thought every parent would know that a child that age would be reading or rather have his parents read to him, a children’s book appropriate for his age. But just in case anyone else out there apart from my friend got the short end of the stick; the book I was talking about was the kind with a one line sentence on each of the 32 pages about sea creatures and how they move across the Ocean. It was his favourite, so I had to read it to him every day at bed time for months and he finally memorised it( I hope I am not bragging again)
Anyhow, while we are on the subject, what is the difference between being genuinely amazed by our children (and I think many parents would agree with me that the little buggers are exhausting but absolutely amazing) and boasting to others about them? Write in with your opinions to [email protected]
LITTLE MONSTERS- A READER’S RESPONSE
Two weeks ago I wrote about my nasty encounter with five small boys who attacked for a loaf of bread. (So much for doing my bit to reduce my carbon footprint by simply walking to the shop instead of driving) In response, a reader sent in her inspiring thoughts, which we publish below.More thoughts on the subjects are welcome and anyone with an interest and ideas of how the kids can be assisted is welcome to come forward and get involved.
I read your article – very interesting Unfortunately these Little Monsters are all over and society needs to do something about them – keep them busy Positively. Do you have a community hall for them- that can keep them occupied positively with either training etc or if not someone should start a project. You will need a someone trained as a youth counsellor – to oversee things ) A board of Trustees You should get the lady (The human Rights Activist) on board Miss Mokobi (there was an article recently about her experiencing problems having access to her child) I advised someone to give her my email address – what happened? I still have an Project idea for her with youth and children in mind.