This week as the gravity of being a working mother weighed down on me heavily I share with you this beautiful prose simply tittled: ‘Being a Mother” which was sent to my inbox with the hope that it will inspire someone, especially daughters in-law and mothers in-law who just don’t seem to get along.
BEING A MOTHER…After 17 years of marriage, a wife wanted her husband to take another woman out to dinner and a movie. She said, ‘I love you, but I know this other woman loves you and would love to spend some time with you.
The other woman that the wife wanted the husband to visit was his MOTHER, who had been alone for 20 years, but the demands of his work and two boys had made it possible to visit her only occasionally.
That night he called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie. ‘What’s wrong, aren’t you well,’ she asked?’I thought it would be pleasant to spend some time with you,’ he responded. ‘Just the two of us.’
She thought about it for a moment, and then said,’I would like that very much. That Friday after work, as he drove over to pick her up he was a bit nervous.
When he arrived at her house, he noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous about their date. She waited in the door. She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last birthday. ‘I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were impressed,’ she said, as she got into that new white van.
‘They can’t wait to hear about our date’. They went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy. His mother took his arm as if she were the First Lady. After they sat down, he had to read the menu. Her eyes could only read large print.
Half way through the entries, helifted his eyes and saw Mom sitting there staring athim. A nostalgic smile was on her lips. ‘It was I who used to have to read the menu when you weresmall,’ she said. ‘Then it’s time that you relax and let me return the favor,’ he responded.
As they arrived at her house later, she said, ‘I’ll go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you.’ He agreed. ‘How was your dinner date ?’ asked his wife when he got home. ‘Very nice. Much more so than I could have imagined,’ he answered. A few days later, the mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so suddenly that he didn’thave a chance to do anything for her.
Some time later, he received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place mother and I had dined. An attached note said: ‘I paid this bill in advance. I wasn’t sure that I could be there; but nevertheless, I paid for two plates – one for you and the other for your wife.
You will never know what that night meant for me. I love you, son. At that moment, he understood the importance of saying in time: ‘I LOVE YOU’ and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve.
Nothing in life is more important than your family. Give them the time they deserve, because these things cannot be put off till ‘some other time.’ Somebody said it takes about six weeks to get back to normal after you’ve had a baby….. somebody doesn’t know that once you’re a mother, ‘normal’ is history.
Somebody said you learn how to be a mother by instinct … somebody never took a three-year-old shopping. Somebody said being a mother is boring ….somebody never rode in a car driven by a teenager with a driver’s permit. Somebody said if you’re a’good’ mother, your child will ‘turn out good’…. somebody thinks a child comes with directions and a guarantee. Somebody said you don’t need an education to be a mother…. somebody never helped a fourth grader with his math. Somebody said you can’t love the second child as much as you love the first …. somebody doesn’t have two children.
Somebody said the hardest part of being a mother is labor and delivery…. somebody never watched her ‘baby’ get on the bus for the first day of kindergarten … or on a plane headed for military ‘boot camp. Somebody said a mother can stop worrying after her child gets married….somebody doesn’t know that marriage adds a new son or daughter-in-law to a mother’s heartstrings. Somebody said a mother’s job is done when her last child leaves home….
somebody never had grandchildren. Somebody said your mother knows you love her, so you don’t need to tell her…. somebody isn’t a mother.