I wrote about some men’s behavior of fathering kids all over the country with different women which I think is just not on. I even suggested a law that would restrict men to father a certain number of kids, fatherless kids for that fact. I mean some Batswana men have 10 kids with seven differ- ent ladies and yet they are still not stable, come on now this is totally unacceptable!
Now remember the guy I wrote about, who had been dating a girl for six months and recently discov- ered that the girlfriend was actually his sister? And this is all because the father of these kids is promiscuous and just can’t resist skirts passing him. You know how I’m always looking forward to your responses regarding articles that I write about to get your different opinions on certain issues.
I mean after all, Youth Affairs is not only about me but rather about us, the youth in general. And of course we always try to interact with our readers and get their points of view. So with regards to the article, these are some of the responses that I received from my beautiful readers on the Youth Affairs blog on The Voice website:
Look, you cannot legislate on social behavior or use the law to infringe on clear civil liberties. It would be unworkable and difficult to enforce even if you tried. The whole thing about promiscuity is lack of personal values, and it’s not one sided. Most of these women are to blame too. If these excuses of men did not find willing partners to do this with, there would be none or very little of this. We have been reading stories about young girls who have no shame in cheating with married men that they know for sure are married, some friends with these men’s kids! It has moved from being adults behaving badly to involve young people! It’s disgusting stuff. It’s a moral issue that can’t be legislated up on. Stories of half siblings in relationships, some even discovering that they are blood relatives after having kids of their own, is a tragedy as this will lead to genetic pooling with defective children being born. Every one of us needs to start having values to be proud of and insisting on them. That’s the only way this can be stopped, including curtailing the spread of STIs.
It won’t be long before feminist groups in Botswana lobby for a law that calls for all men to be castrated. The truth of the matter is that men are not responsible for the women falling pregnant. Women are. A woman knows her body better than a man does. She also knows when she is in her most fertile part of her cycle and she has the power to refuse to sleep with a man during that time. It is often the mothers not the fathers, who put their unmarried daughters under pressure to have kids.
Often the men who are accused of fathering children are not even aware that they have done so, because women conceal the pregnancy and identity of the fathers. Ke ga kae o utlwa mosadi a raya ngwana a re rraagwe o thudilwe ke terena? (How many times have you heard a mother telling their child that the father has been hit by the train)? If you ask me, women are thieves of human semen. They steal it and conceive children and when they can’t stand raising them alone, they blame the poor men.
This is all their fault. If any law should be made, it should be the law to force all mothers to take their teenage girls to be on the hormonal birth control until they are married. That will prevent unwanted pregnancies as well as baby dumping syndrome and many will start having sexual relations when they fully understand their bodies. So don’t blame men for fertilizing eggs in irresponsible and often selfish women who do this for child support money.